The following is an excerpt from my book Comfort and Hope for Widows and Widowers.
It is very difficult to live without the physical touch of a spouse who has died and to be unable to speak to him or her face to face. Many in our widows/widowers group do talk to their deceased husbands and wives in their minds or even aloud, and some find it helpful to write letters to them. I found that writing from my heart was an opportunity to express thoughts and feelings that I wasn’t willing to share with others. I also discovered some feelings I had been hiding from myself.
Our husbands and wives also have things they would like to share with us from the perspective of their new life. A letter from a spouse might say something like the following.
Don’t grieve for me. Bodies die but love does not. We all must live in an earthly body for a time, but this part of my life is over and real life is opening before me. I know that you miss my earthly presence, but be comforted by the knowledge that you are still part of my life because our spirits are still joined. I am not gone, but continue to dwell with you.
We are both being tenderly held by God, who understands our pain and will use our suffering as well as our achievements in marvelous ways that will contribute to our heavenly happiness.
The difficulties surrounding my leaving the natural world are now of no concern to me as I understand the bigger picture. Forgive me for my imperfections and mistakes. We both have regrets, but here things that once seemed important are put into perspective, As I see life more clearly in the light of eternity. my memory of upsets of life in the world dim and disappear while the true essence of our relationship grows stronger.
When you come over to the real world we will be reunited completely. Our love will then be unencumbered by earthly illness or concerns. Bodies suffer from aging and illness, but the spirit endures. You are not your body, nor was I. I am now in a world where my body is a true reflection of my spirit. The body I now live in is strong and young, free from the afflictions and limitations of the natural body I left behind. Though we can’t touch physically, I continue to be touched by your love and the beauty of your soul.
Time on earth seems to go slowly, but in reality it is only a short time until you will join me. The beauty of the world I now live in is beyond what you can imagine. Your tears of sadness will be changed to tears of joy when I welcome you here.
Peace be with you until then.
Comfort and Hope is available from the following sources:
New Church Book Store